So yeah, bad news for me!

[WendyDarling1955]

Ok everyone, so I need your help!

Well, I just found out that my family and I are moving. I cannot believe it. We aren't moving out of the town where we live or anything, but just to a different house. But I am not doing ok with it. My family and I have lived in this house for 14 years. My sisters and I grew up in this house. Yes, I still live at home with my family, along with my daughter and my fiance. My fiance and I are not financially stable to be out on our own, and my parents kinda need our help too. Plus I go to school full time, and it would just be so hard. But I love living at home, and we will eventually get our own place, but for right now, this is where we are at. But anyways, our landlord called us on Friday, and told us that the trustees that own our home, are interested in selling our house. So on Sunday, my mom and the landlord got together to talk about everything. And she gave my mom a letter. Turns out that that letter was our 30-Day notice!!! We have 30 days to be out of our home! We have 14 years of stuff to pack! In 30 Days! I am like freaking out, and I am not doing well with this. This is going to be like a huge change, and I just dont want to have any majors changes in my life right now. I already have a major change coming up in June, my wedding, which is less than 5 months away now! Well, our landlord is letting us move into her house, because they have moved to New Mexico, and they are renting their house to us, and letting us pay rent to them. But I dont know.. I just dont want to move....Thats my home, and this is just going to be a house. With blank walls and no memories. I seriously have been having panic and anxiety attacks since sunday. I just cant relax. I am soo upset and just need people to talk to right now, and some back up support I guess. Thanks for listening everyone!

[mrskellington]

The same thing happened to me! What I did was just, like if you have markings on the wall that say " 1 year old " and a certain mark of where your height was, just do the same ovr at the other house! Just make it as if your other house is like your old one! I did the same and I feel LIKE i DIDN'T EVEN MOVE! LOL

[protostars]

that really bites!
The same thing happened to my family about 8 years ago. we were renting a house and had a lease. the owner sold it from under us and tryed to void the lease on us. we ended up in court and he had to pay all the moving cost as well as give us 2 months rent credit. but it was a pain and a heartbreaking experiance.

[RU42]

Well, my general thought is that a home is not walls, floors, or roof. Home is where the people you love live. Back in 02 I got one of those 30 days notices to leave a place we lived for 5 years or so. So, we quickly found a place and began making new memories.

Packing is difficult but sounds like you have a place to go already. Don't let the werriness of the move get you down - remember all that is important will be coming with you.

RU

[Ezra]

I was renting a beautiful Victorian, and got the 30 day notice. The owner was taking posession. I felt so heartbroken. And I was totally frantic because of the short notice. But I moved into a wonderful Craftsman home with lots of built-ins and more spacious rooms. I loved the new house almost as much as the old, almost. It looked like mine in no time.

Right now you feel overwhelmed. I totally understand that. It's not as bad as it seems. Just say that to yourself over and over. It's not as bad as it seems.

[Chris]

The same thing happened to my wife and I about 4 years ago. We were renting a house and the owners decided to sell. We had 30 days to find a new place. It's unfortunate, and a pain in the butt, but as RU said, home is really about what you make of it. It's more important you've got your 'stuff' as opposed to somebody who has lost their home in a fire. It's going to be tough to pack everything up and move into a new place, but you'll soon be making new memories there, too.

My parents rented throughout my childhood and teen years. As a matter of fact they only finally purchased a home 3 years ago. As a child and teen I think we moved about 7 times.

-Chris

[RankoAnime]

I know it sounds repetitive, but I've had a similar experience. I grew up in a nice house with my family for 14 or 15 years. But then we realized that the house was too small for us, so we moved to a real fixer upper. I was really depressed for a while because I loved our house and all of my wonderful childhood memories were there.

It was extremely difficult to adjust and even my parents were a bit depressed because they felt like they made the wrong decision. However, after we moved all of our stuff into the new house and made the rooms our own, we felt a little better. I still drive past our old house sometimes because my "brother" (aka. a really close childhood friend I had since I was 1 year old) lives 5 houses up the street from it. His house layout is identical to our old house and I was at his house practically half of my childhood, so it's nice to have that warm fuzzy feeling there.

Hopefully adjusting won't be too hard! I'm really sorry to hear about all the stress you're going through. Just be strong!

[JasperGein17121]

I always wonder when we're going to move. I have been living in this apartment w/ my mom, sis, and uncle for almost 5 years now. It would feel really weird if I moved somewhere else. I've been so adjusted to my home, that I don't feel like moving. Moving is one pain in the neck. I have to pack up everything, and worse having to carry heavy things around.

[Chatterbug]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through tough times right now. As you can see you have company I went through a tough time too. It helps to have family and be supportive of each other. Don't forget to appreciate what you do have, you are young and with family that loves you. Best Wishes

[Piglet]

I feel so bad for you =( I cannot imagine what you must be going through. But, try to find the positive in this. My Mom used to always say, "A house is made of earth and stone, but a home is made of love alone." I believe everything happens for a reason and I hope once you find your new house, you will move in and love it even more than the old one. Make a plan right now how you are going to "customize" your new place, and this doesn't need to be expensive. Look at dollar stores or thrift shops for little pillows or pictures that you can save to put in your new house. How about a new plant?? Try to see this as an adventure--a new chapter in your life! Good luck--you are in my thoughts =)

[Sesshomaru-sama]

I'm so sorry. I had the same problem a month ago. I don't know if you noticed my profile under my avatar, that it used to say Carlsbad. Now it says Murrieta. I moved because my godfather hooked my dad up with a house here. I was so sad because I had to leave everything behind. My friends, my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend), the beach, everything. But, it was a little better for me this way because it means I can start a new life. I did. I have better friends here than what I had there in Carlsbad. I hope everything gets better.

[WendyDarling1955]

Omg thank you soo much everyone! You made me rethink my whole situation, and I have realized that what is important is what is moving with me. I guess I am upset about it because I used to move a lot when I was little, and when we finally moved into the house we are in right now, we stayed there for 14 years. I guess I'm just going back to that feeling. I am just really attached to this house, but I know my family and I will make our new place our home. My mom dropped another bomb on me today, saying that my parents didn't know if they wanted to move into the house that is lined up for us, because they are afraid to continue doing business with our landlord, for fears that this could all happen again, because it is a house that SHE owns, that she just moved out of herself. So my parents are werry that this could happen again. So I dont know what we are going to do, but I know that everything will be okay.Thank you, all of you, for all your support. Reading all these messages are really helping me through this. I am so glad that you guys understand. I really needed a pick me up, or at least a small outlook on hope. I realized that what is most important to me will be right there with me through this, and I relized that it could be so much worse. I know everything will get better. Thank you sooo much everyone! You are all so special.

[debijeanm]

Originally Posted by WendyDarling1955

Ok everyone, so I need your help!

Well, I just found out that my family and I are moving. I cannot believe it. We aren't moving out of the town where we live or anything, but just to a different house. But I am not doing ok with it. My family and I have lived in this house for 14 years. My sisters and I grew up in this house. Yes, I still live at home with my family, along with my daughter and my fiance. My fiance and I are not financially stable to be out on our own, and my parents kinda need our help too. Plus I go to school full time, and it would just be so hard. But I love living at home, and we will eventually get our own place, but for right now, this is where we are at. But anyways, our landlord called us on Friday, and told us that the trustees that own our home, are interested in selling our house. So on Sunday, my mom and the landlord got together to talk about everything. And she gave my mom a letter. Turns out that that letter was our 30-Day notice!!! We have 30 days to be out of our home! We have 14 years of stuff to pack! In 30 Days! I am like freaking out, and I am not doing well with this. This is going to be like a huge change, and I just dont want to have any majors changes in my life right now. I already have a major change coming up in June, my wedding, which is less than 5 months away now! Well, our landlord is letting us move into her house, because they have moved to New Mexico, and they are renting their house to us, and letting us pay rent to them. But I dont know.. I just dont want to move....Thats my home, and this is just going to be a house. With blank walls and no memories. I seriously have been having panic and anxiety attacks since sunday. I just cant relax. I am soo upset and just need people to talk to right now, and some back up support I guess. Thanks for listening everyone!

When I was 11.5 my parents moved us from my "hometown" to another town. Just as I was making friends, they moved us again. I went to five different schools for middle school and high school. It's been forty years and I still feel the effects, so I won't say it's no big deal. It is a big deal.

But I will also share this. I read a little saying somewhere that I just love. "Home is Where Your Story Begins." You're getting married, and you'll be starting your own story. Anywhere you are (and you'll find yourself in many buildings) is where you are writing your story. Try to focus on the characters and the plot, not the setting.

Best wishes.

[maul2]

Wow this is wierd I can't even imagine what it must feel like to lose your house like that. I have never even lived in a house long enough to get attached like that. So far I am 14 and have lived in 5 houses, all in the same city. I actually kinda like moving, you get to go live somewhere new and different. BUt of course I 've still got many a year ahead of me. So, I guess i'll probably move into a house premanently eventually. Well bye for now.

[Piglet]

Hey, I have been thinking about you and your moving situation and hoping that all is going well for you. Post when you can and let us know how things are going =)